How do I use the branding plugin to hide my sites from the admin bar, except for me, the admin?

I am having a problem with the custom admin bar plugin.

First, I can’t seem to hide “my sites” from it, without it hiding my way of being the admin and getting from one admin dash to another.

I need to be able to hide things and add things to that bar, and choose for whom it will show or hide.

And, well, secondly, I want to add custom links to that bar like you did up there